Dream interpretation

I had an odd dream about a week ago. I am somewhere outside, I think, and a girl I don’t know comes up to me. She’s about 16, with long pale blond hair and dark eyes. She looks at me and says “By Christmas, you will have an Asian baby.”

Now, I am not pregnant, and neither my hubby or I are Asian, we are not in the process of adopting, and anyway it didn’t feel like a “predictive” kind of dream. (I have had a number of those, mostly for really strange stuff, not earth-shaking life events. But they “feel” different to me and they are never very long, just a few moments). So I have wondered about this dream. I do think dreams reflect something, and I have had dreams that gave me deja-vu experience. I mean, I wake up from them and think “that is so strange!” and I note down the details. (ex. a dream of me sitting in front of a mirror, propping my mouth open, about to squirt something in from a syringe. A few months later – family road trip up to Northern Ontario, and I’ve had my wisdom teeth out recently. I sit cross-legged in front of the mirror in the orange bathroom at the restaurant, fill my syringe with water to squirt out the holes where my wisdoms used to be and bam! everything falls into place, just like the dream).

I don’t know how much credence I give to dream interpretation. I wouldn’t say I think it’s ridiculous, but I also wouldn’t say I hang everything on these dreams either. My mom has had some significant dreams – she knew that she would lose her first pregnancy based on a dream that occurred before the miscarriage, for example.

So I was thinking, what could this mean? Maybe nothing. But maybe, it means a new life will begin for us, and I will be happy about it, but it won’t be quite what I am expecting or imagining. My mom thinks it may mean that dh gets a job in China! Yikes that would be a huge change. I’m not sure I could cope with that.

But, I still continue to daydream as we work furiously to finish the house. current progress: all the carpet & some of the lino from the main level has been ripped out, leaving us with our kitchen (cork floors – love, love, love them!) and the lino in the bathroom and laundry room. Everything is off the walls. Patching, sanding, and painting has been done for all the rooms except the kitchen and laundry room. Windows must be washed and then the trim painted. Flooring people are to come in and install hardwood on the main level, carpeting on the stairs. Progress is being made!


moving forward and reflecting on “stuff”

So, we decided on our real estate agent today.  He does a great job marketing and includes home staging in his costs … and home staging is big around here.  His staging person came today and gave us a big list of things to do!  We have lots of painting in the plans, and we’ll probably have hardwood installed (DH is very multi-talented and could probably do it, but there are some tricky parts and it may be worthwhile to have it installed.)

My lovely SIL and her DH were up for the weekend (before we met with the staging person) and she had lots of great ideas too.  In fact I was impressed with how often her advice tallied with the staging person.  I didn’t get proper “before” pics since SIL and DH started ripping out wallpaper, etc. right after our discussion!  So we are well underway.

One of the things we need to do is serious decluttering.  And one of the very, very hard things for me to declutter is books.  To me, they aren’t just books – they are other worlds, other places where I can go.  Depending on the stresses I feel or the escape I need – I re-read favourites and it is like escaping from my life and hanging out with a friend at the same time. 

Books also hold dreams for me.  I look at my copies of “Lost in the Barrens” (Farley Mowat) or “The Chronicles of Narnia” and I think how I cannot possibly get rid of them.  Not only are they old favourites of mine, but they will be wonderful discoveries for “the kids” when they dig through my bookshelves … I realized that I have these dreams tied up not only in books that I love, but in the hope that I can pass on the love of these to the next generation … that I can discuss, debate, share impressions about favourite characters (my book friends) – there is a whole world I hope to share and discover through new eyes.  Books I have really outgrown, and would consider getting rid of (because I don’t re-read them) – they are in the keep pile because of these dreams.

DSIL and I also discussed “stuff.”  I am not a shopper, but I have a hard time de-cluttering.  Things have sentimental value to me – the sweaters my aunt hand-knit, the items that passed on to me from my grandmothers, the gifts given by DH, my parents, my brother, my friends.  They carry memories, love, they capture a moment in time for me. They can be hard to part with, although I know I can take a photo, or think of them when I see a similar item. I even have an electric hand mixer that is quite annoying because the electrical cord keeps falling out when it’s in use, but it’s the same one that Grandma used and that my mom received as a wedding present! Why would I trade it for a new version that works better but doesn’t remind me of two of the most important women in my life ??

DSIL does not attach memories or great importance to “things” – which are, after all, just “things” which can be easily lost or damaged. And yet, she is quite a shopper and is on the cutting edge of fashion, home design etc. (in fact she will often pass on clothing etc to me, so I am very lucky this is so!) She has no trouble de-cluttering. I am thinking that stuff has a different meaning to her than it does to me. She shops much more (though she finds bargains everywhere!) and declutters much more. I rarely buy stuff for myself but the things I have are hard for me to get rid of.

I’d be interested to know how stuff and de-cluttering works for you too!

Decision: to sell our house!

Dh and I have taken the decision to sell our house.  It’s something we hadn’t talked about for a long time, but it makes a lot of sense now that we have moved into acceptance of our current situation – that is, need to survive on a teacher’s salary while DH gets his business up and running.  While teachers make a decent salary (at least, in Ontario), it is not something that will bring riches.  However I am quite thankful for the security that it provides!  Anyway, our current home was purchased with a higher income and it is difficult for us to float in our current situation.

I thought it would feel depressing, like a defeat and sadness to take this step “backward” in our lives.  But – much to my surprise – it is actually quite freeing.  Dh and I both feel positive and energized about it.  I do dread the pile of work ahead of us though – we need to get rid of probably half our belongings, not to mention doing lots of touch-ups and some renos around the house.  The quotes from real estate agents are better than we expected, so that is motivating.  Hopefully we’ll hit the market around mid-September.  Once we sell (notice the positive thinking) we’ll know how much $$ we have to make our next move.  We’ve talked about buying a fixer-upper kind of house (since DH has the skills, and is willing to use some of his time to improve a place while also working at his new business).  We’ve also discussed something where we could rent out – ie. a duplex where we could rent out one side, or a place with an apartment.   But, plenty of time for that once we’ve made it through the next steps.

I hope this sense of energy and happiness means that we are moving in the right direction.  Since school ended, I have not done so well at keeping to a routine including regular prayer … however I have not had coffee for 3 days, so I am slowly working on getting to a better place.